The Secret To A Successful Relationship Part 1


The Secret To A Successful Relationship Part 1

Transforming Relationships From A Crisis Situation, Into A Loving and Long Lasting Success.

Part 1

Do you find that your relationship status is not particularly bright? Do you feel that you have reached a dead end in marriage because the partnership has ceased? Do you feel lonely and unhappy… Do these feelings sound familiar?

Do you find yourself blaming your partner for what is happening in your relationship?

As long as you remain in the blame/complain mode, you’ll stay stuck in place, as you continue to waste precious energy unproductively. If you want to move forward and achieve a better quality of life, you must look at things from a different angle; from an unfamiliar point of view. It may not be easy, but there is no other choice. It is the only way to gain clarity of mind so you can reconsider and act appropriately.

“When we can not change the situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

Truth: It is rare to find a pair that does not run into some bumps along the road during the marriage, we all have ups and downs. This is normal.

Truth: As long as you want (everything starts with a desire) to improve the situation before it is too late, there is still hope! Think about what you could gain along the way …

“Change your perspective and transcend beyond life’s imperfections.”

Acknowledge your situation, understand the limitations, do what’s in your power to make improvements and proceed forward.

Once you recognize and understand the source of the problems in the relationship, you’ll be able to handle them more effectively, ultimately decreasing their frequency.

When we enter a relationship we do not always have enough understanding of what to do together and how to behave towards each other, in order to build a loving, supportive relationship.

We tend to “operate automatically”, according to what we have absorbed from the environment and based on what we’ve learned from our parents. The problem is that what we’ve learned from our parents and grandparents, is not necessarily a winning recipe for creating the successful relationship we have always dreamed of.

Each one of us enters the relationship dynamic with his/her emotional freight, expectations, values ​​and belief system which are often unmatched to that of our significant other. It is no surprise that when the honeymoon phase comes to an end, problems begin to emerge.

However, when a couple has a basic understanding of the personality structure of one another, as well as what they want to achieve together as a couple, there is no power on earth that can separate them.

The most well known couple dated back in history is Adam and Eve.
We can learn a lot from this biblical story; Adam complained to the Creator, having experienced Eve’s seducing and urging to eat from the fruits of the tree of knowledge; “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”

What we learn from this, is that we tend to blame one another for what’s broken in the relationship, rather than examining what our responsibility is, in addition to how we improve the situation.

First, you must identify what your true desire is. If you want to improve the situation and build a relationship where you can grow together, love, and support each other, that in itself is a wonderful start.

Secondly, make a list of what you want to receive and what you’re willing to give to the relationship. Identify the existing limitations, your ability to take action, and actively work in favor of upgrading relations.

As long as you and your spouse have a common desire to improve, there is more that can be done.

For example, Naomi becomes hurt and angry when she feels that her husband does not give her his full attention. She claims that he is never fully present and is constantly troubled by innumerable issues. She doesn’t communicate to him what’s really bothering her and as a result, ends up feeling beaten down and frustrated.

What is preventing her from having an open and honest conversation with her husband? The culprit is often the ego.
“Why do I have to tell him that he does not give me enough attention? He needs to figure this out on his own!”

Let me ask you a question, do you think your man is a mind reader? Well, he’s not!
In his understanding, he may be giving you more than enough. This is when trouble begins. Lack of communication.

To be Continued …

Much love
Estee ?

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