Transforming Relationships From A Crisis Situation, Into A Loving and Long Lasting Success.
Continuing; 7 Winning Tips to improve your relationship
Tip # 1;
A) initiate a conversation with your husband so that you can express your feelings and what ails you. Not to complain; “You don’t … you’re not.. but rather begin every sentence with; “I feel ….
B) Don’t suppress emotions. If you do not talk about your feelings, in the end, you’ll explode and say or do things you may regret. Anger does not diminish the measure of love, it’s ok to be angry with those you love. In fact, we get hurt the most from those we love, because we care for them the most.
Tip # 2;
Create a process to solve problems without being angry. Each partner takes five minutes to express their feelings. Take a break of 15-20 minutes to contemplate the others position and how each can best deal with the problem. Then come back to the table for another ten minutes to discuss things, knowing that it is alright if the problem isn’t resolved immediately.
Tip # 3;
Do not hoard anger. When your partner comes to talk to you about something that’s bothering him, do not use this time as an opportunity to raise issues from the past and use them against his claim. Instead, deal with the issues he raises, and if you have unresolved feelings from problems in the past, talk about them another time.
Tip # 4;
Do not allow yourself to be dragged into arguments. Remember, negative attention is still attention. If your spouse is trying to drag you into an argument, choose consciously not to go there. People like to argue because it gives them a temporary feeling of strength and satisfaction. Avoid being sucked into their need for attention.
Tip # 5;
Make your spouse a king. Give up the need to control. Give him respect and show him that his opinion is important. Be sensitive to your partner’s desires.
Always check with him; Is it okay if we go to David and Michelle tonight? What do you think about …?
Tip # 6;
Even when he makes a mistake, behaves disrespectfully or is insensitive, do not be tempted to react on impulse. Nothing good can come out of that.
A peaceful household is the bearer for abundance and blessing. Let this be your motto.
Tip # 7;
If you are not satisfied with the existing reality, decide to do things differently. You can always change your strategy.
Albert Einstein said, “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different result.”
Understand that change must come from you.